Rebuilding
Rebuilding
is an active process.
Rebuilding is an act of hope. Explore teachings and practices that help you positively reframe relationship loss, develop resilience, identify and heal old patterns, and cultivate the self-love and personal values that will define your new life.
Our favorite tools for rebuilding
Community is just one part of the equation for navigating divorce and the life we're building after it. These tools leverage research, reflection, and professional voices to give you the insight you need to continue the journey of rebuilding.
 Reclaiming Your Desires
After Divorce
After years spent making someone else happy, it's important to figure out what you actually want going forward.
Glow Up Guide
A workbook designed to be used over a 30-day period to help you rediscover yourself and step boldly into the life you deserve with hope and confidence.
Live Support for RebuildingÂ
Share your rebuilding journey with the community and receive peer and professional coaching support for this stage.
Rebuilding begins the moment the relationship ends.
Repairing, restructuring, and reimagining your life after divorce is one of the least-discussed aspects of this journey. It includes everything from deciding what to do with your wedding jewelry (if you haven't thrown it in a body of water yet) to how to navigate dating post-divorce. Rebuilding is also where you begin to see light at the end of the tunnel for reclaiming the peace you deserve.
Take the hope inventoryJournal Prompts for Rebuilding
- What parts of myself am I rediscovering as I rebuild? Think about interests, values, or qualities that are coming back to life. Pick one and write about how you’d like to make it a bigger part of your life this month.
- What personal qualities have carried me through this experience, and how can I continue to use those strengths?Recall a specific moment when you felt strong, courageous, or resilient.Â
People-Pleaser Checklist
Developed by Dr. Michael Johnson, a member of the Sincerely, Divorced team of experts, this powerful assessment will help you identify your approval-seeking patterns and their hidden costs across five key areas: saying yes, avoiding conflict, emotional caretaking, self-neglect, and approval seeking.
You'll receive your personalized score and discover exactly where people-pleasing shows up in your life.
Get the checklist >Community question: How did you cope with your first wedding anniversary after divorce?
People have said that you should study the content on our social media channels and we actually work with a team of research to do just that. Here are real answers to this question so you don't have to go back to the post to read them.
Our favorite blog posts for rebuilding
Bethany and Hillary's personal reflections and insights for rebuilding, healing, and creating the life you want n the future. Read more posts relating to any stage of divorce over on our Substack (free to access).
How to comfortably dine solo
Going out alone—especially to eat at a restaurant —can feel intimidating at first. Many of us worry that people will judge us or assume we’re lonely.
It's still our anniversary
The thirteenth of May would’ve been my 24th wedding anniversary. I literally laid in the bed all day. I wasn’t sure why at first, but my body knew.
When you're missing your exÂ
When we’re hit with the overwhelming grief of missing our ex, it’s easy to slip into a spiral of self-pity, what-ifs, and endless ruminating thoughts.
